32. How to Harness Conflicts to Deepen Connection: A Step-by-Step Approach

What if conflicts can be used as an opportunity to deepen connection ? 

In this episode, we unpack a step-by-step approach for how to accomplish this. It doesn’t matter what the conflict is about or whether its a big or small conflict—the system we offer here applies to all of it. Inspired by the Nonviolent Communication framework by Dr. Rosenberg, it is designed to not only strengthen your relationship with others but also with yourself, building self-awareness and confidence. 

What You’ll Learn: 

• A deeper understanding of how to differentiate between facts and opinion/judgements

• What a feeling is and what it is not and why it is so essential to know the difference 

• How to identify your true needs versus your superficial needs (which is what most people focus on)

If you’re someone who ….

• Is looking for ways to resolve a conflict with a loved one, 

• Desires to communicate more confidently with your peers, 

• Is keen on becoming a better communicator

…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!

Chapters: 

00:00 : Starting the Conversation on Conflict  

01:13 : The Mistake of Blaming Instead of Observing  

03:10 : How to Share Facts Without Judgment  

04:32 : Removing the Emotional Charge from Words  

07:42 : Speaking About the Exchange, Not the Person  

09:07 : What Feelings Really Are  

14:34 : Letting Emotions Move Through You  

17:35 : Turning Inward Instead of Blaming  

22:44 : Understanding Our Universal Needs  

25:03 : Needs vs. Requests  

29:22 : How to Make a True Request  

34:01 : Real-Life Examples of NVC in Action 

Links : 

Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/ 

Social Media: 

@mitramanesh_ (https://instagram.com/mitramanesh_)

@bendadbin (https://instagram.com/bendadbin) 

@theinnerview.live (https://bit.ly/4f61J0Q)

Keywords : 

Mitra Manesh, Ben Dadbin