46. The Art of Conscious Conflict: Fighting as a Spiritual Practice
What if the conflicts you're avoiding could become your greatest teachers?
Ben and Mitra explore the difference between fighting to win versus fighting to grow. Through personal stories, they reveal how shifting from fear to curiosity transforms any disagreement into an opportunity for deeper understanding. Discover why the energy you bring to conflict matters more than any technique, and how taking responsibility for your inner experience frees you from needing others to change.
What You’ll Learn:
The Foundation Secret: Discover the one internal shift that determines whether conflict becomes destructive or transformative
The Mirror Revelation: Learn why your biggest triggers hold the key to your deepest healing and growth
The Agenda Discovery: Uncover the hidden motivation that's sabotaging your conflicts and how to flip it
If you’re someone who ….
Gets triggered in disagreements and wants to stay calm instead of reactive
Feels exhausted by conflicts that go nowhere and craves deeper understanding
Notices your relationship patterns repeating and wants to understand your part
…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!
Chapters:
00:00 : Defining Conscious vs Unconscious Conflict
01:25 : Fear vs Safety - The Energy That Determines Everything
03:15 : Ben's Family Business Triggers and Finding Safety
07:34 : The Hidden Agenda - Why We Come to Win
12:42 : The Temporary High of Winning vs True Victory
16:17 : Representing Yourself Without Needing to Win
19:23 : 100% Responsibility for Your Inner Experience
25:01 : Seeing Your Own Patterns in What Triggers You
27:39 : Everyone as Mirror - What Others Reflect Back
31:04 : The Energetic Level - How Your Thoughts Affect Everything
33:05 : What Matters Is What You Do After Conflict
36:58 : The Butterfly Story - Life's Forgiveness Through Learning
Links :
Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/
Social Media:
@mitramanesh_ (https://instagram.com/mitramanesh_)
@bendadbin (https://instagram.com/bendadbin)
@theinnerview.live (https://bit.ly/4f61J0Q)
Keywords :
Ben Dadbin, Mitra Manesh