58. Overcoming Overwhelm and Self-Guilt in Parenting: The Importance of Self-Compassion - Dr. Nelly Farnoody-Zahiri
Are you a parent dealing with overwhelmed or feeling that you’re not doing enough for your kids?
In this conversation with psychologist and parenting specialist Dr. Nelly Farnoody Zahiri, we explore the missing piece in most parenting approaches: self-compassion. Drawing from her 14 years of practice and personal journey as a mother of 3 children (including twins), Dr. Nelly reveals why extending kindness to yourself isn't just nice—it's essential for raising emotionally healthy children. Together, we unpack the real challenges of parenting beyond the theory, including how to work with your nervous system, understand your child's unique temperament, and break free from generational patterns that no longer serve you.
What You’ll Learn:
Why your nervous system is the secret key to peaceful parenting—and how to calm it when everything feels chaotic
The game-changing power of understanding your child's temperament—and why "one-size-fits-all" parenting always fails
How asking for help while setting boundaries creates the village you actually need—not the one that overwhelms you
If you’re someone who ….
Feels guilty about not being the "perfect parent" despite reading all the right books
Struggles with asking for help while simultaneously feeling overwhelmed
Wants to break generational patterns
…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Peace Parenting
00:53 The Real Definition of Self-Compassion
02:57 When Your Nervous System Hijacks Your Parenting
05:35 Learning Your Own Triggers as a Parent
07:59 Setting Boundaries with Your Support System
09:08 When the Parenting Expert Becomes the Struggling Parent
13:10 Breaking Free from Parental Guilt
19:19 The Storm Metaphor: Becoming the Calm Center
25:55 Working with Your Child's Unique Temperament
32:55 How Children Mirror Our Nervous System
41:06 Understanding Temperament as a Game Changer
48:25 Hope for the Next Generation of Conscious Parents
Links :
Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/
Dr. Nelly’s book on Peace Parenting Essentials: https://a.co/d/aqlh2WR
Social Media:
Dr. Nelly’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/drnellypsychologist/
Dr. Nelly’s LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nelly-farnoody-zahiri-1790779/
@mitramanesh_ (https://instagram.com/mitramanesh_)
@bendadbin (https://instagram.com/bendadbin)
@theinnerview.live (https://bit.ly/4f61J0Q)
Keywords :
Ben Dadbin, Mitra Manesh