50. When Love Becomes Self-Abandonment: How to Overcome Codependence
Are you tired of trying to manage other’s emotions while losing touch with your own needs?
In this conversation, trauma recovery expert Mary Richardson joins Ben and Mitra to explore the hidden patterns of codependence that keep us trapped in exhausting relationship cycles. Through raw personal stories—from childhood survival strategies to adult relationship struggles—they reveal how taking responsibility for others' feelings often means abandoning ourselves. You'll discover why setting boundaries isn't about controlling others, but about honoring your own needs, and learn the crucial difference between healthy interdependence and draining codependence.
What You’ll Learn:
How to tune into you body’s cues to recognize when you are abandoning your own needs in a relationship
The surprising truth about what boundaries really are (and aren't)
How childhood survival patterns hijack your adult relationships
If you’re someone who ….
Takes responsibility for keeping everyone happy
Feels guilty setting boundaries with family
Repeats the same draining relationship patterns
…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!
Chapters:
00:00 Defining Codependence Together
02:04 When Love Becomes Enmeshment
05:14 Mary's Journey from Addiction to Recovery
10:39 The Hidden Costs of Being a Fixer
15:36 From Childhood Roles to Adult Patterns
23:28 Choosing When to Be Dependent
26:31 Understanding True Boundaries
37:08 When Boundaries Become Walls
42:19 Learning to Walk Away with Love
49:25 Breaking Toxic Patterns
Links :
Mary Richardson’s website : https://kmrcaz.com/
Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/
Social Media:
@mitramanesh_ (https://instagram.com/mitramanesh_)
@bendadbin (https://instagram.com/bendadbin)
@theinnerview.live (https://bit.ly/4f61J0Q)
Keywords :
Ben Dadbin, Mitra Manesh