49. Death as Teacher: Facing Your Ultimate Fear

Does the thought of death trigger you ? 

What if that fear is secretly running your life and preventing you from finding the joy and inner peace you desire?

In this episode, Ben reveals how his fear of dying was tangled up with shame and the terror of never living as his true self. Mitra shares what she's witnessed sitting with people in their final moments, and why death looks nothing like we imagine. Together, they explore a powerful eulogy-writing practice that helps uncover what you're truly meant to do with your life. This isn't about dying—it's about finally living.

What You’ll Learn: 

• How death anxiety drives achievement addiction, resistance to endings, and the feeling that "it's too late"

• Why shame and death fear are connected—and how dissolving one can dissolve the other

• The eulogy exercise that reveals your authentic desires and transforms how you live now

If you’re someone who ….

• Feels a constant rush to achieve more but can't name why

• Struggles to end things that aren't working because endings feel scary

• Fears you'll die without ever living as your true self

…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!

Chapters: 

00:00 : Why Death Fear Shapes How We Live

02:07 : The Achievement Trap and Fear of Dying

05:07 : Death's Bad PR and Cultural Avoidance

09:01 : Shame, Unworthiness, and Fear of Death

13:47 : What Actually Happens in the Death Room

18:13 : The Eulogy Exercise That Changes Lives

24:39 : Moving Beyond Generic to Specific Desires

28:20 : How Writing a Eulogy Births New Possibilities

31:04 : When the Exercise Feels Too Charged

34:31 : Death Informs How We Live

35:16 : The Death of This Episode

Links : 

Shame Episode: https://theinnerview.live/episodes/ep41

Shadow Work Episode: https://theinnerview.live/episodes/ep48

Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/ 

Social Media: 

@mitramanesh_ (https://instagram.com/mitramanesh_)

@bendadbin (https://instagram.com/bendadbin) 

@theinnerview.live (https://bit.ly/4f61J0Q)

Keywords : 

Ben Dadbin, Mitra Manesh