53. Transcending Your Most Stubborn Habits & Insecurities: A New Way to “Break” Free

Are there certain habits you have spent years trying to break but have made little to no progress? 

You know that pattern - in relationships, work, or social situations - that keeps repeating despite your efforts to fix it. In this episode, Ben and Mitra reveal why forcing change often backfires and offer a radically different lens for seeing persistent habits. Through personal stories of transformation, they show how shifting your relationship with patterns might be the missing key.

What You’ll Learn: 

• Patterns protect, they don't punish - See why habits you hate might serve hidden purposes

• Your words create your reality - Learn how "breaking habits" language sabotages change

• The pause that changes everything - Discover how split-second choices create lasting shifts

If you’re someone who ….

• Keeps hitting the same wall in relationships, work, or social situations

• Has tried everything but certain patterns won't budge

• Senses there's another way but can't see it

…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!

Chapters: 

0:00 : Why Your Stubborn Patterns Won't Change

01:16 : Patterns as Protectors, Not Enemies

03:58 : The Language That Keeps You Stuck

06:45 : Your Suffering as an Ally

08:55 : Taking Responsibility Without Blame

14:02 : Feedback vs Punishment

17:41 : Scientific Lens

23:05 : How Judgment Blocks Your Growth

26:01 : The Power of Small New Responses

27:26 : A Story of Transformation Through One Pause

Links : 

Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/ 

Social Media: 

@mitramanesh_ (https://instagram.com/mitramanesh_)

@bendadbin (https://instagram.com/bendadbin) 

@theinnerview.live (https://bit.ly/4f61J0Q)

Keywords : 

Ben Dadbin, Mitra Manesh